By Kimberley A. Johnson & Ann Werner
'Ain't No Sunshine', compiled and edited by Kimberley A. Johnson & Ann Werner, is sort of like a 'reality show' in print. The book is a collection of stories from men that have gone through a break up.
As women we grow up not only believing that 'letting our feelings show' is a good thing. We not only believe that but we are encouraged to do so. On the flip side of things, men are taught from a very young age that 'crying is for sissies' and it's better to 'suck it up' than to show pain.
With that in mind it is not surprising that we see men showing a different attitude about a breakup than women do. Men seemingly move on with their lives more quickly – even after a major break up. They often begin dating sooner and appear as if everything is fine.
But underneath that composed surface, what is really going on?
These compelling stories will provide you with insight into what men really feel. And ironically, you will probably be able to identify with the emotions expressed. The difference is, most men hide these feelings. And that fact alone could possibly mean that men have a more difficult time dealing with breakups than do women.
Face it, if you are hurting you can disclose that to friends and family members. And in all likelihood you will receive support and comfort. But since most men have this idea that showing feelings is wrong, they must deal with the situation alone. Although their friends and family may 'be there' for them most men feel they need to 'stand tall'.
Each of the stories in 'Ain't No Sunshine' is real and they will touch you in a unique way. In fact, you may change the way you think about men going through tough times in relationships. In the end you will find that although men 'handle' these situations differently than women usually do, that does not minimize the fact that they too feel pain during a break up.
I think you will enjoy this book – and you may want to share it with anyone you know that is going through a difficult period in their relationship. I highly recommend the book – it is definitely a worthwhile read!